Martin Buber (1878-1965) distinguished among three types of relationships: it/it, I/it, and I/Thou. In this paper you will look at how we treat ourselves and others as objects or as real and complex human beings. When are we genuine? When do we hide behind roles?

Consider the relationships in your life and look for examples of each style of interaction. What are the consequences of each style of interaction? When and under what kinds of circumstances do you see each of these relationships? Observing this last, what can you do to make your relationships more genuine? Would you want to make all of your relationships more genuine or just some? If the latter, think about why.

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